Our brains create our experience/perception of reality outside of our conscious awareness. The problem is that our minds can't distinguish between the helpful assumptions and those that are not-so helpful. The unfortunate truth is that in our brains thinking that helps us survive can override thinking that makes sense, which can keep us clinging tightly to our less-than-helpful behavior patterns.
If you have healthy relationships with friends, family, and coworkers, a sense of creativity, and are living up to your potential, you are probably already leveraging the power of your strong social connections to absorb the ups and downs that a normal life brings. But when our social connections are damaged or missing, therapy can help.
Humans are social creatures. Keeping our stories to ourselves means we close our connection to others and impede the ability to make meaning from our experiences. Turning our feelings into words and experiences into stories also helps us create meaning from a chaotic world and gives us the agency to create change in our lives.
The short answer is that it takes as long as it takes. We all want to take a magic pill and make our problems gone yesterday, but they didn't appear overnight and they won't magically disappear. Read this post to make the most of your time in session.
- Find the right therapist
Abundant research shows that the most important factor for a successful outcome in therapy is the relationship between you and your therapist.
- Be Honest
Keeping secrets from your therapist prolongs and unnecessarily complicates the therapy process. Opening those thoughts and feelings for discussion with your therapist could lead to a breakthrough.
- Show up. Consistently.
Now that you've made a commitment towards therapy, show up as fully as you can. When therapy feels challenging, it can be easy to check out mentally, show up late, or find excuses to skip sessions. A better approach is to open a discussion with your therapist about these feelings.