In this short and witty video short, Brene Brown shares a personal story that illustrates why we place blame and why it's not helpful to ourselves or our relationships.
When we rush to figure out whose fault is it? we give ourselves the illusion of control over our situation. When we blame, we stop listening and lose our ability to empathize with others.
The research shows that blame is how how we discharge discomfort, pain, and anger. The more we blame, the less able we are to be vulnerable with others. Try holding yourself accountable for your difficult/painful feelings and notice what shifts for you and your relationships.