#TheDress : Perception Versus Reality

The internets are buzzing over #thedress. If I am just introducing you into the crazy making, my apologies. The top trend on Twitter for the last couple days has been #thedress with passionate debates erupting over its color.

A frequent exploration I engage in with clients is in raising awareness around the difference between perception and reality. Whether the dress is blue and black or white and gold (or other colors for that matter), we passionately believe the color of the dress to be what we see with our eyes (if you want to know the science of why, read this). It is our reality. But our reality may or may not align with actual reality or other people's reality. When our reality is challenged, we often feel defensive or confused.

It can help to bring awareness around the knowledge that everything we take in through our senses is based on perception. And while our experiences feel real to us, other people experience their own reality. Our struggle is to own our reality without feeling the need to impose it on others or feeling threatened by conflicting realities.

And my truth... it doesn't matter what color #thedress is. It's ugly.

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
— Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements